Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts

A Bitter Relationship....

Love, respect and trust lay the foundation of a relationship, and when any of these is shaken, it leaves life in the pangs of pain and disappointment. To break up isn't so easy as it sounds because when you decide to call it quits there is so much at stake that was once so special to the two of you. There are dreams of the future and memories of the past.

There is time, energy and emotions of years; there are smiles and tears. All this go in vain and lose their meaning.

Life suddenly seems go get entangled in a feeling that is hollow and dead.

But what is there is an instinct, a gut feeling, that forces you to get back to the same person despite all ifs and buts. What if, despite all the odds, you are keen to forget and forgive? Is it really possible to revive a broken relationship? Will the relationship be the same again; will you be able to build the same trust? The simple answer is: it is easier said than done.

Many say that no one ever died of a broken heart but when you are suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way.

Before you decide to nurse your ailing heart by going back to your beloved, it's imperative to analyze the reasons for the tiff. It may be breach of trust, mismatch of future dreams, clash of personality traits, and unreasonableness in possessive behavior of complete neglect or in many cases, due to societal pressure.

The most difficult to deal with is when you lose trust. When breach of trust is accompanied by an uncertain future of the relationship, when a clash of interests and dream is accompanied by parental disagreement, when overpossessiveness takes the form of diseased state, in all such circumstance, it's better to bear the burnt of a broken heart rather then compromise.

To go back to a sour relationship or to shun your one-time lover is completely your call. It is for you to decide which road to take. But in all circumstance one thing is sure: that it will take time for a relationship to prosper and get its original sheen back and to build that trust.

If you have enough patience and love for that someone special, then go and embrace your beloved before if gets too late. For other, if you are not sure then just ask yourself one question: do you really want to look back on a life of an unfulfilling and half-trusted relationship?

Cloud Gazing.....Part 2

“No.” She shook her head slightly as she glared at him with eyes that accused him of an uncommitted crime. “No, it won’t fade, it will never fade…this won’t go away, Michael, no matter how much you will it to. You did this to me, don’t you understand that? After everything I said to you, after everything…all the tears, all the arguments…you went and did it anyway. And I hate you for that, I hate you for ignoring me and for not loving me enough to stay…but most of all I hate you because…because I can’t help but forgive you.” Her tears were uncontrollable now, streaming down her face, blurring her vision, cracking her voice- but now she didn’t care. Now all that mattered were the words she’d finally thrown into the air between them, breaking the window that had separated them for so long.

He stared at her for a few moments, seemingly unaffected by her outburst. “You know why I did what I did. Lily, you should know why I went, why I had to go. But you should also know that every step that I took away from you was like a dagger through my heart. I didn’t go because I didn’t love you enough, baby, I love you more than you could ever imagine…but that” he gestured to the chain in her hand “was a part of my life, just as much as you were. It was something I had to do.”

They lapsed back into silence for a few moments, their gaze still as one. It was almost as though nothing had changed, as though they were together again. But it wasn’t. Everything wasn't as it once was. Everything hadn't returned to those perfect days when they'd watched the sky together and talked until there was nothing left to say. In place of the openness they'd once shared had grown a haze- an unforgiving distance that lingered between them and refused to lift.

“I’m going to go. And so are you. And I’m not going to see you here again, right?” He looked at her as he stood up, raising his eyebrows.

“It’s not that easy. I can’t even look at the sky without remembering you.”

“Who said there was anything wrong with remembering? I want you to remember me, Lily…I just don’t want you to build your life around those memories.” He crouched down in front of her, looking at her with that stare that she could never avoid. “The sky can be our place. The place we watched when we spent our lives together…and the place I’ll be watching you from for the rest of your life. Like a guardian angel.” He grinned at her, reminding her of that conversation they’d had before he’d proposed.

A solitary new tear escaped her eye as she smiled back at him.

“So you won’t be back?”

She shook her head.

“Good.” He stood up. “I’ll see you tomorrow, then?” She started to laugh through her tears, and then in a blink he had vanished.

The familiar stab of anguish spread through her chest as she found herself alone again, and remembered that none of it was real. She stood up, kissing her fingers and pressing them against the headstone.

“Goodbye, Michael.”

She opened her fist slowly, staring at the numbers engraved on the tags that she’d memorised over the years. Rubbing her thumb across the metal, she felt that stupid little pinch of anger grab her once more at the idea of a man that meant so much being identified in such an impersonal way, and then she lay the chain down in front of the stone. As she turned to walk away she realised that the loneliness and sadness that had followed her for so long had finally disappeared. She wasn't alone. He was with her. He would always be with her. Her husband, her soulmate and her guardian angel. He was watching her from the clouds.

Cloud Gazing.....Part 1

She sat alone in the field, the colours of the misplaced and mismatched flowers the only comfort she was offered in such a lonely, lifeless place. She lay her head back against the grass and let the sunlight dance on her lids, much as she had done every since the summer had fought its way through the rainy spring.

As her eyes eased open she began to watch the clouds floating by, trying desperately to see the beauty in them that she used to, searching for the figures amongst them that used to materialise so easily. But they didn’t come- they never did, not without him.

“Eiffel tower…haven’t seen one of those in a while.”

The voice, though sudden, didn’t startle her, and she propped herself up on her elbows to see a man staring up at a familiarly shaped cloud.

“I was beginning to think you wouldn’t show.” She smiled as he sat down, cross-legged as a child, in front of her and began pulling at the grass.

“I wish I could say that.” He looked at her sincerely as her smile wavered slightly.

She forced her own eyes away from his, feeling a colour rise to her cheeks as she transfixed them on her feet stretched out in front of her.

“You’re alone again, then?” He looked at the grass. “Not that I’m surprised…it has been three years.”

She remained silent, resenting what she knew he would say next.

“When are you going to move on from this, Lily? It’s been so long and it’s just…not healthy.” His voice was soft, but she knew without looking that his expression was serious and staid.

“I…I was clearing up the other day…trying to…erase some old memories and I found…” Her false cheery voice faded away, leaving her unable to name the item in question. Instead, she pulled it out from under the collar of her dress, lifting it over her neck and holding it out to him.

He stared blankly down at the metal chain in her hand, his expression unreadable.

“It’s yours.”

“I know.”

They both stared at the item that neither of them wanted; curious as to how something so small and insignificant could cause such a torrent of pain to whoever possessed it. Slowly she closed her fingers around it and brought her hand back down to the grass beside her.

“Do you…want to talk about it?” He tried

She began to laugh.

“What?”

“This is ridiculous…it’s so…so ridiculous I can’t help laughing…I mean, if I don’t laugh I know I’ll only end up crying or... or screaming…” gradually her laughter disappeared, and her eyes locked into his, making it impossible for the tears pricking at her eyes to stay where she wanted them to.

“Please, don’t cry.” He sat forward slightly, his arm lifting as though in reflex to wipe away her tears, but falling down again as he realised once more that things weren’t how they used to be- he couldn’t touch her like used to- he couldn't comfort her or even hold her. Everything was different…painful and different.

She brushed furiously at her tears, angry at herself for being weak. “You wouldn’t think that after four years I’d still well up like a baby at one wrong word.”

“It will fade.” He said confidently.

Read more in Part 2

Ways to ultimate happiness

Happiness is not fa away if you un derstand life an embrace it. To liv life to the fullest and make i more positive you just hav to follow simple rules. Her are some simple rules of lif that will help you to bette you and better tomorrow.

1. Learn to listen: Only the mind that listens can understand anything. Listening is not passive as most of us think. It means to let a message sink in, with out being judgmental. Don't criticise. Don't comment. Let not your conditioning interfere with understanding what you are hearing. Put off your filters. Let your intelligence take a break. Don't validate anything. Listen with a still, calm mind and you'll hear the deeper meanings. The contrived tree rends a healthy workload. So, be happy in working envirinment too.

You'll understand the Truth.

2. Understand yourself: Go Inward. Look inside you. Just relax and let your thoughts come out. Don't try to comment, criticise or judge them. Your anger, greed, jealousy and envy must be understood by you.

Only when you know the filth and mistakes inside can you change it. If you refuse that you are bad or deny it, then you can never be happy.

3. Be in sync with nature: You must understand the larger perspective of life. We are designed to live with nature, we depend on it for air, water, food et cetera. We can't go against it. Love the flowers, plants and trees. Do what you can to protect and nurture it. Live in harmony with it. And you'll find the happiness. Remember, as a child, you were thrilled by the first sprout of the seed you sowed in the garden.

4. Love unconditionally: The whole world seems to be doing this wrong. As children grow up, we ask them to do certain things. If they do, we shower love on them. If they don't, we scold them. We deny them our love.

The teacher does it. The boss is no different. And the partner is the same too. Rejection, scorn, cold shoulders, that's what people get when they don't follow the carrot and stick policy.

Do what I say, do what I like, only you'll be my best friend, you'll get my love. But, conditional a love works in the short term. Unconditional love to o children, friends, partners t and parents, that's the wint ning strategy. Try and you  won't regret.

5. Speak the truth: Truth is the foundation on b which true love is built. Lies a and falseness can crush a romantic relationship. Sooner or later, the person is going to find out the truth and then the love bonds are gone -disappearing into the thin air. When you're wrong or make a mistake, accept it. And the person will forgive you, not just that the bonds of love grow stronger after that.

"Is life really a struggle or do optimists rule the world?"

I remember a conversation with my mother, not long ago, in which she told me that she’d rather tone down her expectations almost to a point of non-existence than be disappointed by things not happening the way she wants them to. I was a bit shocked to hear such pessimism come from my strong and wise mother. It seems to go against the sign of the times, too, with everyone talking about positive thinking, the law of attraction and the likes.


As a coach, I agree with the discourse of optimism. I know how important it is to keep a positive outlook on what you want to achieve. Moreover, I know it is possible to influence your emotions by changing your thoughts from negative ruminating to a more optimistic internal voice.

As a private person, I know myself to be my mother’s son and in my darkest hour, the fear of expecting too much is no stranger to me.


As I ponder on this, I’m reminded of something I remember reading in one of my psychology text books: those who see life as a struggle are probably more correct in their negative thinking than those who view the world in a very positive light. However, this does not bring success and happiness to the righteous and truthful pessimists. The naive optimist, although statistically more often on the unrealistic side of the equation, does have a much better chance of a successful and happy life.


So, even if statistically speaking, more people face failure than success in general, you better make sure your thoughts are on the optimist side.

In other words, the optimists seem to attract more than their share of success. And as I write this, I realise there is no such thing as `more of their share' when it comes to success and happiness. Thinking optimistically, as I try to do most of the time, I know for sure that success and happiness do not come in fixed quantities. We can make it more and we can make it turn our way if we invite it nicely. That much I do know. So positive thinking and law of attraction? I guess I am a fan, be it somewhat reluctantly ...

Getting along: Age no bar......

Do the youngest people in today's work force lack loyalty and a strong work ethic? Or are they simply more focused on results and less on blind loyalty to a company?

As baby boomers approach retirement and are replaced by the latest generation to enter the working world, the millennial, managers are faced with a dynamic mix of age groups working together. Although this can lead to conflict, experts say it's also possible to make the generational differences strengthen the workplace.

Here's a rough overview of the four generations in the work force today -
· Traditionalists: Born in 1945
· Baby Boomers: Born in 1946 to 1964
· Generation X: Born in 1965 to 1979
· Millennials: Born in 1980 and after Workers in their mid-50s and older are less likely than their younger colleagues to be motivated by external incentives like competition, money and opportunities for advancement, said Ilke Inceoglu, a senior research psychologist with SHL Group Ltd.

"For this age group, intrinsic incentives such as having autonomy and stimulating work become more motivating."

These employees "have probably already achieved quite a lot in their jobs," she said, including promotions and pay increases.

According to diversity consultant Simma Lieberman, the youngest workers are more likely to quit if these rewards aren't forthcoming. For example, younger employees are likely to leave a workplace where rewards are based largely on seniority.

"Baby boomers and traditionalists say, `We spent all this money training you and you're leaving after only six months?'" Lieberman said.

Boomers, on the other hand, may believe that younger workers don't respect their years of experience and contributions to the company, she continued. "They have a really hard time when they see a younger person come in and the younger person is a know-it-all."

Many of the things the millennials want at work -a casual environment, flexible hours, respect -would make workers of all ages happy. The difference, according to Lisa Orrell, a speaker and consultant who is an expert on relations among generations, is that millennials are less willing to stick with a company that's not providing such perks.

How to get along?

Experts offer these keys to in r-generational harmony: Respect: This is the most im portant, especially for managers. A younger supervisor needs to listen to older employees and respect their contributions. So does an older manager with younger employees. Comments like, "You're just like my mother" or "You remind me of my son" may be meant as compliments but are not helpful.

Work/life balance: Younger workers may demand flexible schedules, but workers of all ages enjoy them. Such schedules are not always possible, however, "There are some jobs where somebody has to be there at a certain time," Lieberman said. But when employees are able to adjust their hours to fit their lives, it can make workers of all generations happy.

Rewards and recognition: Companies may start out trying to improve their rewards and recognition programmes to give younger workers the incentives they want.

But recognising good work will help motivate staff of all ages.

Communication: Younger workers want more communi cation from their bosses than older ones are used to. "It's causing a very big manage ment shift in corporate cul tures," Orrell said. Although the older workers may not be ask ing to hear from the boss more often, more communication generally leads to a better workplace for everyone.

Mentoring programmes: Younger workers want "some one that they know they can go to for questions and answers and guidance," Orrell said. "If you really want to attract millennials to your company, you need to be telling them you do have a mentorship programme in place."

And experts offer an important caveat: Don't make too much of generational differences.

Better for everybody Finally, remember that improving the workplace for younger employees can benefit everyone. In fact, if the workplace becomes more flexible and fun, Orrell said, it's possible that some baby boomers may delay their retirements for a few years, easing the pressure that compa nies will feel to fill their spots. And when they do retire, a more hospitable place will have younger workers in the pipeline to replace them. These are the future managers and leaders for every corporation. -Margaret Steen

My unsure love, finally sure.........

Well, when I was a 13 years girl who just stepped the teen age fall in love with one guy named Alex, who was 2 years older than me. I don't know when and where I fall for him. He was also studying in same school where I used to study. Actually he was the popular guy of our school and of our city.

Everybody loves him and teachers used to admire him. In Actual he was sort of celebrity because he used to act in the Tele movie. Which was great hit and he was playing the leading role in that. He was good at acting, well at studies, well in sports and he was well mannered. Well he is good in playing Basketball and the captain of the team of our school. Actually our school had won many games of basketball and it’s because of him and his team player. He was all rounder and he was the coolest guy of our school and state as well.

At first I used to talk about him a lot and one day I just met him in the school bus. Actually he usually didn’t go by bus but he was coincidentally in the bus. So there I met him there for the first time. At that time he was already in the school bus and me and my pal Michelle we were entering the school bus there was other notorious and bully boys. Among them one of the boy just kept the leg in front of my way and I didn’t see it and I was about to fall suddenly Alex caught me in his warm arms and I was clanged in his arms for a moment. At that time I introduce me and my friend and thanked him. I was very at that moment and felt like an angel.

After then we just stare each other in the school. But we never ever talked and shared our feelings with each other because I used to feel uneasy and used to scare to talk with him. He always used to stare me in every break time and when we coincidently met each other but he didn't used to utter a word. I loved him from inside but couldn't show him and share him. finally when he passed his grade-10 and had a last day on school which was farewell day, I farewell him without uttering a word because I wasn't sure that he love me or not and I was scared to propose him if his answer will be 'no' .so, Neither I told him something nor he told me something for his high school and we never met thereafter and only his memory was left behind.

After that we began to see each other coincidently sometime like I used to see him coincidentally once in long interval of time because he was still inside the city. He was still in the state and hasn’t moved to the city and I was so shocked by that and was curious to know the reason why he didn’t move to city?

But one day when I passed my school then I got some time and I was going for the violin class and was in the way to return back home. I saw him with his Pal in his splendid car. I was aw. At that time he was not only a Tele movie star but also a film star.

After that time, I saw him everyday when I was returning back home. As I told it that he used to stare me. Throughout this time he was staring me and one day I was with my Pal and busy talking ,returning from violin class I was on the way to my home there he came in his car and came out of the car, yanked me, told "I love u" and kissed me. At that time my whole body was freezing. I was so confused what to say or what to do. I was motionless at that time and then he wrote something on my hand. While he finished writing he told me again "if you love me too then you'll call me tonight". He told this much and he went away. As he was going away from me some people and chic recognize him and was screaming and following him to take autograph of him. But I was there only staring him.

My Pal Michelle who was with me was also shocked for a moment and after a while she started to mock me. When I reached at home I was totally perplexed what to do. That was past and after that moment when he's last day of school was on, I stopped to think about him and here I had already one Boyfriend Steve. I think a lot and recalled my past moments and came to conclusion that he is my first love so I should give a chance to it.

Then I phoned him and talked with him. From that I came to know that he wanted me to be first to propose him and start this relation but I was unaware about it and when he saw me on the way he could not stop himself and he exposed it. So, after that I was feeling great but another problem stood there and that is about my boyfriend. I thought for a moment and came in conclusion that I should give up that relationship with my boyfriend. I phoned him and told all things that happened to me. He also loved me very much. At first he wasn’t ready to leave me but he understood a bit later that I love someone and I could be happy with someone. At that time I was little bit sad because I broke someone’s heart to mend my heart but I promised him that you’ll be my true friend for ever and I’ll be helping you and shall not forget whole my life.

Well then one day again Alex phoned me and said that I needed to meet you.

We choose the Best Restaurant of our state for the Dating and I was so excited that for the first time I am going date with coolest and was also famous actor Alex. The night when he phoned me I was happy and I choose a best cloth that suits me and bought it from the mall and be almost ready to go for the dating.

Next day I began to be ready for tonight dating. The time came to go for dating and I went to the place where we decided yesterday to go. As I reached restaurant and went inside I didn’t see a single person except him.

He booked the whole restaurant only for me, I thought. As he saw me he hastily came to me to welcome me. We really had a great time there. We had a delicious food and talk as well. I really enjoyed that night. It was the biggest and memorable day of my life.

From that day we were lovers and our relationship bond was very strong as well.

Here I am now stepping in 30 and we still love each other very much and we are planning to marry in next six months.

"Averting negative thoughts..........."

All of us view everything through our prevailing mental attitude. If our thoughts are positive, that is fine, but if they are negative, our lives and circumstances will probably mirror these thoughts. We all have negative thoughts every now and then. This is normal behavior as we might have gone through some unpleasant experiences in our lives. But too many negative thoughts are bad and can be self-destructive.



Negative thinking appears to be more prevalent than positive thinking.

Positive thinking requires some effort, whereas negative thinking comes easily and uninvited. This has much to do with education and the environment one has been living in. Many teenagers experience and develop negative thoughts--either because they are unhappy with school or their life is not going the way they thought it would, or because of peer pressure or failures. Negative thoughts such as greed, anger and hatred are like viruses. If you give them any attention, they will start to breed and become increasingly difficult to get rid of. To have a positive impact on your life, negative thoughts should not be left unattended. They are a thousand times more addictive then drugs. Over time, they overwhelm you so much that you cannot distinguish thoughts as being separate from you.

Depression is an outcome of negative views towards oneself, the world, and especially the future. Our thoughts, emotions and behavior, all affect each other. By changing how we view them we can make significant changes to improve our lives. When we learn to get rid of negative thoughts, we become a more positive person who is happier. All the advices we get about "think positive" just doesn't work if you cannot get rid of negative thoughts first. Persistent inner working can change habits of thinking. We must be willing to put energy and time into pursuing positive thinking in order to change our mental attitude. So, every time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, reject the thought and think positives ones instead. Open your mind to a positive attitude and events. Expect them and think about them, and soon your life will change for the better.

Decide that from today -from this very moment -you are leaving tnegative thinking behind, and starting positive thinking and behavior.

Daughter's Duties

It is high time we raised our voice not only for the rights of a daughter but also for her duties. A daughter, who has enjoyed equal status as a son, should get the right to take the responsibility for her parents. Most daughters, who are willing to take the responsibility, find themselves helpless in the face of social and family disapproval. Sometimes, a daughter shrugs off the old and infirm parents as no concern of hers, as she is married and belongs to another family. However, the same daughter will not hesitate to claim her share of her parents' property when the time comes! The law has given her the right to claim a share in the family property even when she is married into another family. Why then should society hold her back when she wants to share the responsibility of looking after the needs of her aged parents?

The rights and duties of a daughter must go hand in hand. Every society evolves with the changing times. Social norms that were acceptable in the past no longer hold good today. Gone are the days of joint families and large households. Especially in urban areas, small nuclear families form a large portion of our society. In these small families, the old people do not find an acceptable place. Advanced medical facilities along with health-consciousness have increased the life expectancy of middle-class Nepalese. As result, we have a growing population of senior citizens today. And a sizeable number of these senior citizens have not only worked hard for society but have also done a great service to the nation by maintaining small families.

Those who have brought up only daughters and married them off, often lead a lonely and neglected existence, since daughters do not feel responsible for their well-being. There are thousand of senior citizens in our country who feel abandoned, yet helpless in the face of outdated social customs according to which they cannot depend upon their daughter in the time of their need. The changing social scenario demands a change in our social thinking. A daughter should have no hesitation in visiting her parents when they need her. Both sons and daughters should shoulder the responsibility of old parents amicably.


We have fought for the right of our daughters. Let us join hands and raise our voice together to give her a chance to perform her duties with dignity.

In search of happiness


Have you ever tried catching a butterfly? It perches nimbly on a flower, gently folding and unfolding its wings while you approach it noiselessly from behind and, just when you think you have caught it, it flies away-a transient flash of colorful wings, enticing yet mostly unreachable. Well, that's what happiness is like. The more you chase it, the more elusive it gets. At the risk of mouthing an oft-repeated (but little heeded!) cliché, I will say that happiness comes from within. In fact, sought outside one's being, it is akin to a mirage-you just don't seem to attain it! You, and you alone, have the power to make yourself as happy as you wish to be! Truly an awesome thought?

So, how can you be happy? By not trying too hard, for starters! By lightening up a little and overlooking minor setbacks and hiccups instead of treating each of them as a major disaster. The world gives a hoot whether you smile or frown—so why not increase our face value by smiling? If you can only learn to laugh at some things, the scenario would not seem so grim all the time! Actually, I wasn’t too sure that I could do it but my mother made it sound quite easy—so I decided to give it a try. Once I had resolves to find my happiness in day-to-day events and activities, I realized that there are indeed several other ways to make oneself happy. If you can train yourself—via meditation, positive thinking, or whatever— to find inner peace and calm, then you will attain happiness far more easily than others.

It involves making peace with yourself, accepting who you are and not worrying about or fighting unknown or unseen demons.

No doubt, it is tough, but I believe it is worth trying. And, above all, count your blessing—it will immediately put your heart in the right place and fill your soul with humility and gratitude for all the things you have, things which you need to be thankful for but have only taken for granted so far. And, even if things are not as hunky-dory as you’d like them to be, be grateful for the fact that you are at least alive to know that they are not. Would you rather be dead? Think about it. All these are but small ways of achieving happiness, but they can boost your self-worth which, in turn, can motivate you to go beyond your best in your life and in your relationship, that is a reward worth vying for.

What is LOVE?

"When my grandma got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandpa does it for her now all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." -Rebecca, age 8



"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." -Terri, age 4


"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and
little stars come out of you." -Karen, age 7


"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.
My mommy and my daddy are like that.
They look gross when they kiss." -Emily, age 8



"Love is when mommy sees daddy on the toilet and
doesn't think it's gross." -Mark, age 6

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and
she takes a sip before giving it to him,
to make sure the taste is OK." -Danny, age 7



"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your
French fries without making them give you any of theirs." -Chrissy, age 6


"You really shouldn't say I LOVE YOU unless you mean it.
But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." -Jessica, age 8

 
We all know (I hope!) what love is, but who better to define it than a group of kids ages 4-8? You may have received this- it came via an email share to me. I shared some- not all here, though it was hard to pick as all of them were really good definitions of love.

My Favourites quotes..........




"Life is more than anything that a mind of a man could invent" -Sherlock Holmes

 "There never is a good war and a bad peace" -Unknown

 "We fight, we forget , we meet , we depart, we love and we part ,we collect our past and walk ahead , we leave many people , we meet newer ones , we live moments , we share , we just move forward…We crave, we smile ,we cry looking back at our happier days ,we laugh at our silly mistakes that we have committed in our past….we desire better partners, we wait for magic in our lives…but we never realize how magical is our journey called life!!!"

 "Be a source of joy. And let the critics and haters complain about the world." -Paulo Coelho

"We people of the world need to find ways to get to know one another--for then we will recognize that our likenesses are much greater than our differences, however great our differences may seem." -Peace Pilgrim

 "The point of power is always in the present moment." -Louise L. Hay

 "Your mind is a tool you can chose to use any way you wish. The thoughts you choose to think create the experiences you have." -Louise L. Hay

 "Everything that is done in the world is done by hope." -Martin Luther King

 "Whenever you feel uncomfortable, instead of retreating back into your old comfort zone, pat yourself on the back and say, “I must be growing,” and continue moving forward." -T. Harv Eker

 “Happiness depends more on the inward disposition of mind than on outward circumstances.” -Benjamin Franklin

 "Kindness is the universal language that all people understand." - 2 Corinthians 9:6

 "If anything is worth doing, do it with all your heart." - Gautam Buddha

 "Don't be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin." -Grace Hansen

 "There is no “right answer,” only an answer that’s right for YOU."

 "The sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being." -Carl Jung

 "We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude." -Cynthia Ozick

 "Love is not consolation. It is light." -Friedrich Nietzsche

 "The greatest distance in the world is the 14 inches from our minds to our hearts" -Agnes Baker Pilgrim

 "No act of kindness is ever wasted." -Aesop

 "Today is it. Are you living your life? With passion, conviction, and pure joy? What about love? Do you seek it out? Do you believe and soak it in? Take the time now to breathe and wonder and feel and RETHINK your life. Your dreams. YOU."

What I learn..........



I have learned a lot of lessons in my life, actually I am still learning. A lot of these lessons were easy, and some ... the hardest ones to learn, have made me a better person. And I try to put them to good use each day..I should never stop learning ... no matter what the lesson is. There is something valuable in each situation we are confronted with. And while it may not seem to be so at the time. Eventually I will understand why I needed to learn a certain something.


 What i had learn in my life.....

I've learned that I can make someone love me. All I can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care,some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned that it's not what I have in my life but who I have in my life that counts.

I've learned that I shouldn't compare myself to the best others can do but to the best I can do.

I've learned to read between the lines..

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences I had and what I learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays I celebrated.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes, I have to learn to forgive myself...